Someone asked the question and everyone has a definition of it. I’ll give you mine:
“Love is a gift of self. A voluntary surrender of my heart to another seeking only their happiness.”
My friend Chatter Box asked on her blog about love and if it can be controlled, I don’t think so. Once you love you have no control of it, there are no conditions and unfortunately make us vulnerable. We are so open to the other than in many cases you can get hurt. But if you are loved in return is the most wonderful feeling, it’s an exchange of emotions that will let us experience Heaven on Earth.
Love begins as a feeling but it’s ultimately a decision, it is the only way to make it last a lifetime. Without that decision it won’t survive the ups and down of life and the many situations we face in our relationships.
Love is sacrifice for the sake of the other. It is not about me, it’s about seeking the other’s happiness and we are happy in return. I believe that’s is why so many relationships fail these days, we are too self centered sometimes. When we take our eyes from us and unto others it is when we are rewarded.
That is why recreational dating worries me so much. Young people today engage in dating for the heck of it, it’s cool to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Sometimes they have a good example of what love is in their homes with their parents but many others don’t. By the time they are 19 years old they have had their heart broken quite a few times and with every heart break comes a fence or barrier into their heart. Once those barriers are up it is very hard to bring them down and they deprive themselves of experiencing love the way God intended.
If I could tell the young people what to do in relation to love I would say:
“Have fun and lots of friends. Love your friends and be on the look out for that special person who would want only your happiness and will never hurt you. Dating that person will have a purpose and a goal, not just for the time being but for a lifetime…”
My favorite scripture of all is 1 Corinthians 13
It seems unreal the first time you read it, way before you have fallen in love for the first time. It even sounds ridiculous but then that moment comes and there it is, “love is patient, love is kind, hope all things, believes all things, bear all things…” (this is from my memory)
Care to tell me what Love is to you?
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Copyrighted by Clary Lopez 2007